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Friday, February 18, 2011

Application Story 8: Life Matters – The Art of Letting Go…

Let me start by sharing this with you:

“Before you can begin something new, you have to end what used to be. Before you can learn a new way of doing things, you have to unlearn the old way. Before you can become a different kind of person, you must let go of your identity. So beginnings depend on endings. The, problem is, people don’t like endings
Chapter 3 - How to Get People to Let Go - Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change, 2nd Edition.

When facing and struggling with the fact of “Letting it Go”, here are six steps to help you with this process:
1. Write, talk, draw, paint or tap into your thoughts and memories. Letting go of your past means honoring your memories.
2. Let go the emotions and feelings of painful memories by letting them wash over you. You may feel very bad, but relieved add peace afterwards. Let go of your past by reliving it.
3. Go back and talk to the people involved, if possible. Letting, go can mean going back.
4. Share your real feelings; confess if it is appropriate. Letting go means expressing your emotions. If you have to deal with your mistakes, then own up to your shame or guilt.
5. Apologize and ask for forgiveness if you need to. Letting go also means being vulnerable.
6. Get help with uncontrollable urges that are getting out of your control, otherwise this can be complicated and compromise your health. Sometimes letting go means burying your pride.


In addition, here is a suggested book to help work on the let go process.  The Secret of Letting Go - By: Guy Finley. This book helped me cope with my feelings and emotions, and gave me tips to find that balance for a new beginning.


Lastly, here are some quotes that people tent to use during those moments. I personally have used them too:
1. This is my favorite: “When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell

2. “We can never turn back the pages of time, though we may wish to relive a happy moment, or say goodbye just one last time, we never can, because the sands of time continue to fall, and we can’t turn the hourglass over.” – Unknown

3. “Change is never easy, you fight to hold on, and you fight to let go.” – The Wonder Years

Action Item:
1.   Think about a time you had to let go something or someone, what did you do, and what was the outcome?
2.   What else should we consider to help us move on in life and embrace the new?
Enjoy!

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